Here's an interesting thought: could it be that women are getting married at an older age nowadays because there are fewer suitable men around?
Its been said that the median age of women getting married for the first time has increased over the years because their priorities have changed: completing a formal education has become a priority for many, establishing a stable career, obtaining post-graduate qualifications. The time required to do each is considerable thus making it a logical reason for the delay.
But i think there is another reason and that is that men and marriage are becoming an increasingly unattractive option. While it can be said that women have enjoyed social progression, the same can't be said for men; men have not evolved at the pace women have, and this lagging makes men less attractive to the "New Woman".
The "Old Man" still expects his wife to be at his beck and call. He expects her to cook, to clean, to be the mother of children. His expectations of her don't normally go much further than that. For those who would doubt this assessment, just take a visit to any of our local universities and you'll find that such thinking is in the majority of male minds. But not so for the women. Women's expectations have changed, its pathetic that men's have not.
Even in the so-called "liberal" world of the KL-professional - banking, telecomm, oil & gas, etc. - a quick poll of men clearly reveals their expectations of women and spouses. It must be severely depressing for a modern women to date such men and find out that is what they want. I can understand why finding the "right man" is a complaint i've heard so much about from friends, and i've read so much about in the newspapers and women's magazines.
Marriage is about two people living together. For that experience to be a happy one, it requires a matching of expectations, a matching of ambitions, or at least, and acceptance of both in each other. Social evolution has begun to create an imbalance. If i were a woman, i wouldn't marry me either.
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