Francis Edward Smedley once said, "All is fair in love and war". The war in Iraq is not very fair - the Americans + British are pounding the crap out of Iraq while taking very, very few loses in return (and still they complain!). But this is war, so everything goes, thus justifying the latter portion of Smedley's quotation.
But there should be a sense of fair play in love, at least. One rule that i think should be upheld is "don't lie on another's man's bed": if she has a boyfriend, or if she is married, or has a fiance, then she should be officially off-limits to further approach, even if she makes advances on you first.
This rule goes beyond common decency and gentlemanly conduct. There is a very pure and logical reason why it should be upheld: "don't do upon others what you wouldn't want done upon you." Because, believe it or not, "what goes around comes around." You may get the girl, you may even live happily ever after, but you can bet your life that somewhere down the road, your indiscretions will return to haunt you. I'm not a big believer in karma - i believe all punishment and reward will be dished out or granted in the Hereafter. But this is certainly one area where erring on the side of caution is preferred.
If you want the girl (or the man, as the case may be), and she wants you back in a serious way, let there be a clean break between her and the other him before you and her start anything. Its better this way, better than sneaking around and feeling guilty.
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