Its never been an easy thing for me to ask a woman to go out, especially if she is someone whom i admire or am attracted to. Things get awkward, i break out in a cold sweat and my feet begin a nervous shuffle. Not very easy at all.
I suppose the reason why its not easy is because i don't know:
1. what is she thinking at the moment of asking?
2. what will she say?
If there was some way to know the answers to these questions beforehand, asking women out would be so much easier, not just for me, but i suspect a large number of the male population would breathe easier. We would only ask women who we know will say yes.
But perhaps its better that we don't know. As a test for ourselves, we at least now know whether our wanting to spend time with a particular woman overcomes our fear of asking her. This makes the act of asking an act of courage. So, all you women out there, the next time a man asks you out, please know that it takes some courage for us to do so. Even if you're going to turn him down, try to appreciate this fact.