Women ask, no demand, men to do crazy things sometimes. They know its unreasonable, they know it can't or shouldn't be done and yet they still ask. And when the man says no (as he rightly should), she sulks and spoils the mood and upsets everybody.
My question is simple: the end result is that the woman won't get what she wants because he just won't do it, and she knows that he won't do it because its completely unreasonable. Knowing this, why spoil the mood, why upset tempers by even asking in the first place?
Answer? Maybe that's what she wanted all along: to upset the mood, to give her a reason to sulk and place pressure on the man, perhaps so she can get something else that she really wants.
Men, stupid creatures that we are, don't know how to handle that sort of pressure very well. Do we placate her and give in? (in which case, she can just go to Plan B and say that she doesn't want him to do it anymore because it's "tak ikhlas") Do we try the counter-sulk maneouver and try to shift the pressure back on her? (can also back-fire if she doesn't bite) Do we not say anything at all and pretend nothing happened? (in which case she can say that he doesn't care that's why he's not making any attempt to placate her, thus heaping even more pressure) Do we try to suck up to her, shower her with compliments and/or gifts and try to make up? (in which case she can say he's trying to avoid the issue and doesn't take her concerns seriously)
See? Its so unfair. :)
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